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    Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    To make a very long story short, my 22 year old brother moved in with me about 6 months ago. I never liked the idea of him moving in with me but my parents are currently in England so he pretty much had to move in with me.

    Lately, he has been acting very strange. He gets many phone calls which last about 1 mintue each and than he leaves the house and comes back an hour or two later.

    Tonight when he left the house, I went upstairs and looked around in his room and found a big bag of weed, several smaller bags of weed and several bags with what i think is cocaine (white powdery substance).

    I am sooooooo pissed right now and I just want to kill him but I don't know how to handle this situation. I do not like drugs, never done any drugs and I don't want drugs in my house. On the other hand, I dont want to kick him out because he has no where to go to and to top it off, starting monday he is suppose to come work for me and I sure don't want any drugs around my office or my employees.

    Please give me an idea of how I can deal with this subject. Thanks in advance guys.

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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    Simple...tell him that if he continues to deal drugs, he is out on his a$$ and will not be working with you. Besides, if he is selling so much, he can probably afford to get his own place. He is totally in the wrong for putting you in this awkward situation, so he needs to solve the problem, not you. He is the bad guy, not you. His choice!
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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    Been there, done that with my younger brother. Tell your parents, if pressure from them doesn't work .... he's got to go. He will only drag you down with him in the long run.

    What if he's dealing? You want police at your door, poss. other criminals calling your house and maybe even coming in your home. What if he starts stealing your stuff to sell to support his habit? The list goes on ....

    He needs to be confronted either by yourself or your parents over the phone ... if he doesnt comply, sad to say he must go. Cause if he doesn't comply means he needs to hit rock bottom before he shapes himself up. It sucks, but Tough Love is a powerfull thing.

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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    He is 22 yrs old. Just tell him what you expect of him if he wants to continue to live and work with you. Tell him to grow up.

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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    I agree with all of the above statements. This is one area I know a little bit about. I work full time as a Mental Health specialist in a hospital. We also care for rehab and other AODA ( alcohol and other drug abuse) services. One of the first steps in recovery for any loved one is to start the treatment of tough love. This is difficult for families to do. People don't want to hurt their loved ones and your brother will fight you kicking and screaming, but like someone above said it will bring you down eventually if you don't.

    I would do this.

    1. Let your mom and Dad know about the situation

    2. Discuss your views with your brother, let him know you love him and you support him, but if he continues to deal with drugs, he is out, no excuses.

    3. For yourself I would contact my local chapter of alanon, they are affiliate with AA and work specifically with families who have a loved one involved with drugs, its good support for yourself and helpful for your family as well.

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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    If the police bust him in your house, your a$$ is grass also!

    Gather up all the dope and flush it down the toilet, and wait for him to come to you looking for it. When he does, you can have a talk with him. Tell him either the drugs leave, or he leaves. If he says he will stop dealing tell him straight to his face that if you find anything else in YOUR house, you'll call the police yourself.

    First thing Monday morning, get in touch with some legal help line, or an attorney, and ask for advice on the best way to protect yourself from any possible legal hassels that might come up if he gets popped while living in your house.

    He might be your brother, but cover your own a$$ first, and then worry about him if you think you need to.
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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    Line him up with some help, if he does not want help...boot him.

    If it was my brother (who is older and smaller) I would kick the crap out of him, then get him some help.

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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    Say the cops planted it on ya...works in the U.S. these days



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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    With all seriousness just disassociate yourself from your brother and the dope. You don't need to fib on your brother but it's your house that can be seized and your future that can be ruined. I work in law enforcement and have seen so many peoples lives destroyed in your exact situation. Police officers (including myself) don't want to hear the excuse when the junk is found in your house. Marijuana is still illegal...Let me repeat, Marijuana is still illegal. Using the drug is one thing however dealing the junk is a whole new game.



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    Re: Need your advise guys. Please read this post!!!

    "michaelmazid" wrote:
    To make a very long story short, my 22 year old brother moved in with me about 6 months ago. I never liked the idea of him moving in with me but my parents are currently in England so he pretty much had to move in with me.

    Lately, he has been acting very strange. He gets many phone calls which last about 1 mintue each and than he leaves the house and comes back an hour or two later.

    Tonight when he left the house, I went upstairs and looked around in his room and found a big bag of weed, several smaller bags of weed and several bags with what i think is cocaine (white powdery substance).

    I am sooooooo pissed right now and I just want to kill him but I don't know how to handle this situation. I do not like drugs, never done any drugs and I don't want drugs in my house. On the other hand, I dont want to kick him out because he has no where to go to and to top it off, starting monday he is suppose to come work for me and I sure don't want any drugs around my office or my employees.

    Please give me an idea of how I can deal with this subject. Thanks in advance guys.
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