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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    PP80, I was similar to you in high school in some regards that I could hang our with girls, but I had a tough time interacting with girls I was really interested in for some reason. But I think it is something that you "grow out of" to say as you mature socially. Once I got to college it was an issue that seemed to go away and I felt comfortable going up and talking to anyone whether it was at the library or at a party.

    I don't know if you are attending college or not but living in the dorm is a great place to meet people and especially women because everyone is starting out on the same level because they are all in new environments. The best thing is never be afraid to do things with others because it only increases your social network of friends.

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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    PP80,

    I'll try to put in my 2 cents worth....

    Most important thing you can do is, be true to yourself......Go with your feelings and what your heart and mind tell you to do...

    Keep your dates and time spent with women, within your budget....Don't try to be someone your not and don't spend money on a good time ( date ) that you couldn't do any given time......

    Listen to the woman and try to hear what she is really talking about.....Don't feel like you have to do all the talking, and being the one that has to keep things lively......

    I'll tell you this, when the right girl does come around, you and she will both know it. True love is not earned or bought, but does come along in it's own speical way.......If partys and large gatherings are not for you, well I'de say don't force the issue....If your not comfortable with those types of scenes, don't bother with them...

    Ask yourself, what things do you really enjoy to do? Look around and see if there are any local clubs or groups for those activitys.....Join a small group who's interest are the same as yours.....Not only will you be doing something you know you already enjoy, but it's a great way to meet others who enjoy the same thing as you...

    I've made some great friendships this way in the past, and I've meet many women who had interest like me that way also..

    I would say the Bar scene is not the way to go.......

    Good Luck.....


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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    "VikingNed" wrote:
    PP80,

    I'll try to put in my 2 cents worth....

    Most important thing you can do is, be true to yourself......Go with your feelings and what your heart and mind tell you to do...

    Keep your dates and time spent with women, within your budget....Don't try to be someone your not and don't spend money on a good time ( date ) that you couldn't do any given time......

    Listen to the woman and try to hear what she is really talking about.....Don't feel like you have to do all the talking, and being the one that has to keep things lively......

    I'll tell you this, when the right girl does come around, you and she will both know it. True love is not earned or bought, but does come along in it's own speical way.......If partys and large gatherings are not for you, well I'de say don't force the issue....If your not comfortable with those types of scenes, don't bother with them...

    Ask yourself, what things do you really enjoy to do? Look around and see if there are any local clubs or groups for those activitys.....Join a small group who's interest are the same as yours.....Not only will you be doing something you know you already enjoy, but it's a great way to meet others who enjoy the same thing as you...

    I've made some great friendships this way in the past, and I've meet many women who had interest like me that way also..

    I would say the Bar scene is not the way to go.......

    Good Luck.....


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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    "shockzilla" wrote:
    "VikingNed" wrote:
    PP80,

    I'll try to put in my 2 cents worth....

    Most important thing you can do is, be true to yourself......Go with your feelings and what your heart and mind tell you to do...

    Keep your dates and time spent with women, within your budget....Don't try to be someone your not and don't spend money on a good time ( date ) that you couldn't do any given time......

    Listen to the woman and try to hear what she is really talking about.....Don't feel like you have to do all the talking, and being the one that has to keep things lively......

    I'll tell you this, when the right girl does come around, you and she will both know it. True love is not earned or bought, but does come along in it's own speical way.......If partys and large gatherings are not for you, well I'de say don't force the issue....If your not comfortable with those types of scenes, don't bother with them...

    Ask yourself, what things do you really enjoy to do? Look around and see if there are any local clubs or groups for those activitys.....Join a small group who's interest are the same as yours.....Not only will you be doing something you know you already enjoy, but it's a great way to meet others who enjoy the same thing as you...

    I've made some great friendships this way in the past, and I've meet many women who had interest like me that way also..

    I would say the Bar scene is not the way to go.......

    Good Luck.....


    Hey, that's where I met Mrs. Shock!!!!
    Actually, I met my wife in a bar too! :grin: My advice is that is doesn't matter where you meet someone; bar, library, pet store... if it was meant to be then it was meant to be.

    I was best friends with my wife before we got married. I think that is important too.
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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    "NodakPaul" wrote:
    "shockzilla" wrote:
    "VikingNed" wrote:
    PP80,

    I'll try to put in my 2 cents worth....

    Most important thing you can do is, be true to yourself......Go with your feelings and what your heart and mind tell you to do...

    Keep your dates and time spent with women, within your budget....Don't try to be someone your not and don't spend money on a good time ( date ) that you couldn't do any given time......

    Listen to the woman and try to hear what she is really talking about.....Don't feel like you have to do all the talking, and being the one that has to keep things lively......

    I'll tell you this, when the right girl does come around, you and she will both know it. True love is not earned or bought, but does come along in it's own speical way.......If partys and large gatherings are not for you, well I'de say don't force the issue....If your not comfortable with those types of scenes, don't bother with them...

    Ask yourself, what things do you really enjoy to do? Look around and see if there are any local clubs or groups for those activitys.....Join a small group who's interest are the same as yours.....Not only will you be doing something you know you already enjoy, but it's a great way to meet others who enjoy the same thing as you...

    I've made some great friendships this way in the past, and I've meet many women who had interest like me that way also..

    I would say the Bar scene is not the way to go.......

    Good Luck.....


    Hey, that's where I met Mrs. Shock!!!!
    Actually, I met my wife in a bar too! :grin: My advice is that is doesn't matter where you meet someone; bar, library, pet store... if it was meant to be then it was meant to be.

    I was best friends with my wife before we got married. I think that is important too.
    Don't get me wrong guys, I've met some nice girls in the bar rooms also :wink: , but if I was young again and knowing what I know now, I'de try to go a different route..

    I still think, joining a group or club that has to do with your enjoyable ativitys would be a good place to start..... :grin:


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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    "shockzilla" wrote:
    "VikingNed" wrote:
    PP80,

    I'll try to put in my 2 cents worth....

    Most important thing you can do is, be true to yourself......Go with your feelings and what your heart and mind tell you to do...

    Keep your dates and time spent with women, within your budget....Don't try to be someone your not and don't spend money on a good time ( date ) that you couldn't do any given time......

    Listen to the woman and try to hear what she is really talking about.....Don't feel like you have to do all the talking, and being the one that has to keep things lively......

    I'll tell you this, when the right girl does come around, you and she will both know it. True love is not earned or bought, but does come along in it's own speical way.......If partys and large gatherings are not for you, well I'de say don't force the issue....If your not comfortable with those types of scenes, don't bother with them...

    Ask yourself, what things do you really enjoy to do? Look around and see if there are any local clubs or groups for those activitys.....Join a small group who's interest are the same as yours.....Not only will you be doing something you know you already enjoy, but it's a great way to meet others who enjoy the same thing as you...

    I've made some great friendships this way in the past, and I've meet many women who had interest like me that way also..

    I would say the Bar scene is not the way to go.......

    Good Luck.....


    Hey, that's where I met Mrs. Shock!!!!
    And a fine wife at that you have there Shock......You hit the jackpot for sure..... :grin:


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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    "shockzilla" wrote:
    "VikingNed" wrote:
    PP80,

    I'll try to put in my 2 cents worth....

    Most important thing you can do is, be true to yourself......Go with your feelings and what your heart and mind tell you to do...

    Keep your dates and time spent with women, within your budget....Don't try to be someone your not and don't spend money on a good time ( date ) that you couldn't do any given time......

    Listen to the woman and try to hear what she is really talking about.....Don't feel like you have to do all the talking, and being the one that has to keep things lively......

    I'll tell you this, when the right girl does come around, you and she will both know it. True love is not earned or bought, but does come along in it's own speical way.......If partys and large gatherings are not for you, well I'de say don't force the issue....If your not comfortable with those types of scenes, don't bother with them...

    Ask yourself, what things do you really enjoy to do? Look around and see if there are any local clubs or groups for those activitys.....Join a small group who's interest are the same as yours.....Not only will you be doing something you know you already enjoy, but it's a great way to meet others who enjoy the same thing as you...

    I've made some great friendships this way in the past, and I've meet many women who had interest like me that way also..

    I would say the Bar scene is not the way to go.......

    Good Luck.....


    Hey, that's where I met Mrs. Shock!!!!
    And that's where I met my ex-wife. :evil:

    Enough said! :lol:

    So what works for some, doen't necessarrily work for others.

    I guess I should have went to the bars with Shock. Then I might have met a better class of women & be happily married like Shock. :wink:

    But I'm certainly glad now on how thing are turning out.

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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

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    Well purplepride, I'm going to try to attempt to answer question 3, and remember that this is a girls' perspective and I know in the dating scene I can never really understand it from a guy's perspective, so try to remember that, this is just what I think. It's not that we love the "outgoing guy" we just like a guy who is confidant enough to talk to us or ask us out. I know there is really no "cure" for being shy, but you can't let being scared of doing something wrong get in the way of asking a girl out, because you could miss out on something really great. I'm sure it probably sucks working up the guts to ask out a girl, and rejection can be scary too but you live and learn. Life is about rejection, everyone has been through it and you can't just not ask someone out because your afraid of it. Through all the rejections you will eventually find the right person, but you'll never find the right person if you just sit around and don't do anything about it. There's really no other way to say it, if you like someone you have to tell them how you feel otherwise you will always regret it and you'll always think about what could have happened. So I'm not sure if that helps at all, but I'm just saying what I feel. Another thing I just thought of is that if you are really shy, you will either find someone shy like you, or you'll find someone outgoing to help you be more outgoing. So yea, feel free to PM me if you have any other questions.

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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    I never know what to talk about, what are some good conversation topics?
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    Re: I would really appreciate some help

    anything man, just show interest in her. ask her where she's from, what she likes to do, eat, drink, just spur up topics. ask her about some shit you've seen lately or like to do, that way you can try and find common grounds.

    once you get into it for a couple minutes it will all flow naturally, just need to think of those first couple thing

    women love a guy thats easy to talk to, it makes them feel a lot more comfortable


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